Relationship Stress/Issues | Manifest Counseling PDX

Relationship patterns in your past don’t have to dictate your relationships in your future.

Does any of this sound familiar?

“I was so careful this time when choosing my partner. I didn’t think I’d ever be here again, feeling so frustrated and secretly ashamed of myself for being in a relationship that feels so similar to mistakes from my past.”
Maybe you feel invisible and unappreciated in your relationship. You try to ask for what you want or need and end up feeling like you’re asking for too much, even if it is a reasonable request.

Perhaps simple requests are ignored or become conflicts and are so exhausting that maybe you’ve given up speaking up for yourself because it just goes nowhere good.
Perhaps you’ve tried modeling to your partner what being thoughtful and giving is, thinking that "If they just see how nice it is to receive love in this way, then maybe they’ll do it for me?" … and it just never is reciprocated. Or if it is, it's infrequent. Too infrequent. Just enough to keep you hooked. This makes you feel even more confused. Stuck. Invisible.
Regardless of the scenario, parts of you show up less and less in your relationship.
Attempts at changing this have not worked. You might be thinking to yourself, “How do I change any of this? How do I keep this from happening again?”
How do I trust myself to not repeat the same relationship pattern I've been stuck in?

You're here because you're aware of the costs of the stressful patterns in your relationshps.

You might find yourself feeling embarrassed telling your friends about the problems in your relationship(s) because you feel like the same issues come up over and over.

Maybe you avoid talking about your relationship issues altogether for the same reason. They’ve heard this story before and you feel ashamed to admit that you fell right back into a similar situation, even though you tried so hard to do this one differently.

Worst of all is that your friends may have told you that they think your partner isn’t good for you, is a covert narcissist, a problem drinker, or too controlling.

Maybe your work is suffering due to your thoughts returning to the stress occurring in your relationships.

You might even skip doing the things you normally enjoy because you’re focused so much on trying to make things work with your relationships or feeling down due to things feeling negative and stuck in your relationships.

Helping you change old dysfunctional relationship patterns for good.

As a result of therapy for relationships you can:

Put an end to repeating harmful and/or dissatisfying relationship patterns.

Feel better about yourself, whether you’re in a relationship or not.

Heal from old relationship wounds.

By utilizing a mixture of therapies such as schema therapy, CBT, and psychodynamic therapy we will:

Explore old and current patterns in your relationships (even the ones you are not consciously aware of).
Define your own healthy boundaries in your relationships and gain a better understanding of who you are and how you want to show up authentically.

Therapy for relationship stress and healing from past relationships can help you….

Improve your self-esteem and a clearer understanding of your own self-worth in relationships.
Deepen your awareness of what your own healthy boundaries for healthy self-preservation, self-care, and assertiveness are, and how to start asserting those boundaries in your relationships.
Begin to dissolve old patterns and replace them with new ways of being in relationship with a significant other.
Gain insight into why you keep experiencing unhealthy relationship dynamics and work to change those patterns.
Achieve more emotional regulation and more emotional stability and less reactivity in relationships.
Become better equipped to make thoughtful and informed decisions in your relationships. This can lead to healthier partner choices.

Relationship patterns in your past don’t have to dictate your relationships in your future.

Does any of this sound familiar?

“I was so careful this time when choosing my partner. I didn’t think I’d ever be here again, feeling so frustrated and secretly ashamed of myself for being in a relationship that feels so similar to mistakes from my past.”

Maybe you feel invisible and unappreciated in your relationship. You try to ask for what you want or need and end up feeling like you’re asking for too much, even if it is a reasonable request.

Perhaps simple requests are ignored or become conflicts and are so exhausting that maybe you’ve given up speaking up for yourself because it just goes nowhere good.

Regardless of the scenario, parts of you show up less and less in your relationship.

Attempts at changing this have not worked. You might be thinking to yourself, “How do I change any of this? How do I keep this from happening again?”

How do I trust myself to not repeat the same relationship pattern I've been stuck in?

You're here because you're aware of the costs of the stressful patterns in your relationshps.

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You might find yourself feeling embarrassed telling your friends about the problems in your relationship(s) because you feel like the same issues come up over and over.

​​

Maybe you avoid talking about your relationship issues altogether for the same reason. They’ve heard this story before and you feel ashamed to admit that you fell right back into a similar situation, even though you tried so hard to do this one differently.

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Worst of all is that your friends may have told you that they think your partner isn’t good for you, is a covert narcissist, a problem drinker, or too controlling.

Maybe your work is suffering due to your thoughts returning to the stress occurring in your relationships.

​​

You might even skip doing the things you normally enjoy because you’re focused so much on trying to make things work with your relationships or feeling down due to things feeling negative and stuck in your relationships.

Helping you change old dysfunctional relationship patterns for good.

As a result of therapy for relationships you can:

Put an end to repeating harmful and/or dissatisfying relationship patterns.

​​

Feel better about yourself, whether you’re in a relationship or not.

​​

Heal from old relationship wounds.

By utilizing a mixture of therapies such as schema therapy, CBT, and psychodynamic therapy we will:

Explore old and current patterns in your relationships (even the ones you are not consciously aware of).

Define your own healthy boundaries in your relationships and gain a better understanding of who you are and how you want to show up authentically.

Therapy for relationship stress and healing from past relationships can help you….

Improve your self-esteem and a clearer understanding of your own self-worth in relationships.

Deepen your awareness of what your own healthy boundaries for healthy self-preservation, self-care, and assertiveness are, and how to start asserting those boundaries in your relationships.

Begin to dissolve old patterns and replace them with new ways of being in relationship with a significant other.

Gain insight into why you keep experiencing unhealthy relationship dynamics and work to change those patterns.

Achieve more emotional regulation and more emotional stability and less reactivity in relationships.

Become better equipped to make thoughtful and informed decisions in your relationships. This can lead to healthier partner choices.